Relationships

What You Give to Others, You Give to Yourself

The most enlightment beings throughout history told us to love others. You were not told to love others just so that you would be a nice person. You were being given the secret to life! You were being given the law of attraction! When you love others, you will have an amazing life. When you love others, you will receive the life you deserve.

"Love your neighbour as yourself."

Give love to others through kindness, encouragement, support, gratitude, or any good feeling, and it comes back to you and multiplies itself, bringing love to every other area of your life, including your health, money, happiness, and carreer.

Give negativity to others, through criticism, anger, impatience, or any bad feeling, and you will receive that negativity back - guaranteed! And as the negativity comes back, it multiplies itself, attracting more negativity, which affects the rest of your life.

It's Not About the Other Person

You can tell in your relationships right now what you've been giving. If a current relationship is great, it means you are giving more love and gratitude than negativity. If a current relationship is difficult or challenging, it means you are inadvertently giving more negativity than love.

Some people think a relationship is either good or bad because of the other person, but life doesn't happen that way. You can't say to the force of love, "I will give love only when the other person gives it to me!" You can't receive anything in life unless you give it first! Whatever you give, you receive, so it's not about the other person at all: it's all about you! It's all about what you are giving and what you are feeling.

You can change any relationship right now by looking for the things you love, appreciate, and are grateful for in that person. When you make a deliberate effort to look for the things you lovemore than you notice negative things, a miracle will take place. It will appear to you as though something incredible has happened to the other person. But it's the force of love that is incredible, because it dissolves negativity, including negativity in relationships. All you have to do is harness the force of love by looking for the things you love in the person, and everything will change in the relationship!

Love Means Freedom

Now here is the tricky bit with giving love in relationships, and it's the one thing that has prevented many from receiving the life they deserve. It's only tricky because people have misunderstood what is best for another person is not giving love! Thinking you are right and another person is wrong is not giving love! Criticizing, blaming, complaining, nagging, or finding fault with another person is not giving love!

"Hate is not conquered by hate, Hate is conquered by love. This is a law eternal."

Giving love to other people does not mean you let people walk all over you or abuse you in any way, because that's not giving love either. Allowing another person to use you doesn't help that person, and it surely doesn't help you. Love is tough, and we learn and grow through its law, and as part of that learning we experience consequences. So it is not love to allow another person to use or abuse you. The answer is, get yourself onto the highest frequency of good feelings that you can, and the force of love will resolve the situation for you.

The Secret to Relationships

Life presents everything to you so that you can choose what you love. And part of the gift of life is that you are given all kinds of people, so you can choose what you love in those people and turn away from what you don't love. You are not meant to manufacture love for qualities in a person you don't love, but simply to turn away without giving them any feeling.

Turning away from what you don't love in someone means you're relaxed about it, and you know life is giving you a choice. It doesn't mean that you argue with them to prove they're wrong or you criticize or blame them, or that you want to change them because you think you're right. Because if you do any of these things, you are not giving love - big time!

"Your own soul is nourished when you are kind; it is destroyed when you are cruel."

When you are on a feeling frequency of love, then only people who are on the same feeling frequency as you are can come into your life.

You know some days you feel really happy, some days you feel irritated, and others you feel sad. You can be many different versions of yourself. A person ion a relationship with you can also be many versions, including happy, irritated, or sad. No doubt you will have seen them being many different versions, but every versions is still that person. When you're happy, then only the happy version of other people can come into your life. But you have to be happy to receive the happy versions of other people!

It doesn't mean you are responsible for other people's happiness, because everyone is responsible for their own lives and happiness. What it means is there's nothing else for you to do but to feel happy yourself, and the law of attraction will do the rest.